She:Ā What’s a Baby Monitor?
Me:Ā Ā Ā It’s something people use to make sure the baby isn’t
getting into any trouble.
She:Ā Ā We need to get you a Mommy Monitor.


From the moment she could talk, our daughter was telling us how she was going to take the “Big kid bus”Ā on her first day of school. At first, she’d surf along the back of our sofa, peer out our front window, and point at it with a near-toothless grin.
“Bus! Bus!” she’d call out in excitement. Eventually, she’d walk to the kitchen and tug at my shirt, telling me how she wished she could be on that big yellow bus, too.
“You’re too little right now, but some day, honey, some day,” I’d tell her.
Some day arrived today. It crept up on us like dusk creeps up on one of those perfect summer days –the ones you wish could go on and on forever. They don’t. Nothing lasts forever.
“That’s just how it is,” our daughter would say.
I could have used her five-year-old wisdom as that school bus pulled away today with half of my heart sitting on it. You prepare yourself for days like this. You tell yourself you must be strong for your child. I was. But I wasn’t prepared for her to run up to the bus without hesitation, climb the stairs like she was conquering Everest, then sit somewhere on the far side. In the ridiculously perfect movie-moment that had played in my mind for ages, she was peering out a window in our line of vision, blowing big fish kisses at us, waving at us–needing us.
As the bus pulled away, I clumsily chased after it a little, hoping she’d hear me say “I love you,” hoping she’d catch me waving madly at her. This was, of course, the scene in the movie where Mom looks like a complete idiot. Our daughter was oblivious to all activity outside the bus. She was gleefully talking with one of her little friends from down the street. She’d made it atop Everest, and she was happy.
I’d promised myself I wouldn’t call a soul for fear of spending the morning like a blubbering fool, but when we got back to the house, my fingers magically made their way to the phone, then dialed my mother.
“So, she’s off then? Did it go okay?” she asked. The moment I heard her voice, I burst into tears.
“Yeah. It went great. She didn’t even wave goodbye! She sat on the other side of the bus!”
“So, for five years, you’ve been working hard, preparing her for this moment. Making sure she’ll be okay. And now you’re crying because she’s so well-adjusted, she didn’t need to wave goodbye?”
I couldn’t help but laugh as I wiped the tears off my cheek. “Yeah. I see your point.”
Parents who have been in my place before have hinted to me that today was smaller than I think. It was just a pebble in an ocean of slippery rocks and perilous waves. Someday, our daughter will want to cross that ocean, losing sight of the shore completely. Today was just a first step–and it’s pretty clear she liked getting her feet wet.
It’s been our ritual for years now to say goodnight in an unusual way. “To Infinity!” I call out from her bedroom doorway as I turn out the light. “And beyond!” she responds from under the sea of glowing stars Daddy pasted on her ceiling.
In my always flamboyant, often clumsy, non-Disney-Mom manner, I will love this girl to infinity and beyond.
Today, I just needed to love her all the way to that bus.

‘Leap by Heather Grace Stewart (ISBN 978-0-557-29619-4)
Review by UK Poet Tom Phillips (Various Artists)
Following on from 2008ās Where the Butterflies Go and to some extent picking up some of the threads and moods from that collection (and, indeed, the odd poem, such as the elegantly fragile āForecastā, itself now cast in a new light by one of the poetās own photographs), Heather Grace Stewartās Leap contains poems which are simultaneously sparer, richer and more diverse. Here, again, the essential drama is between the ordinary daily routine, when āthere are/deadlines to meet,/bills to pay,/diapers to changeā (āCopingā), and the extraordinary āotherā which both haunts and tantalises, the poetry finding its occasion in the unexpected emergence of the latter in seemingly simply everyday situations. In āOfflineā, for instance, an ice storm āslowed us/for a few short hoursā but also keeps back the world and its routines so a couple can talk and listen ālike it mattered/like hearing our own eulogies//and the minutes melted into hoursā, while in āProgressā a woman caught up ā and dissatisfied ā in the hurly-burly of instant, demanding, virtual communication ātexts and types/Tweets and Skypes//then sleeps outside/where stars and/fireflies decorate the/infinite darkness.ā Tellingly, perhaps, ācoming up for airā is one of the phrases which echo from one poem to another: the moments isolated in the poems, whether they be a chance encounter (āPathsā) or a parachute drop (āThe sun-filled sky says, āBrilliant!ā/while the wind whispers, āFool!āā), become restorative acts.
That this should seem such a strong theme in the book is, perhaps, at least partly down to the inclusion of Grace Stewartās photographs. These, too, by definition, ācaptureā the moment, their clear, sharp aesthetic providing, not mere illustration as such, but a visual commentary, a heightening of atmosphere, as in the shot of a barn beneath an immense expanse of sky cut only by a single jetstream or the layers of fading blue, like a Rothko painting, in a picture of a lake and landing stage. Photographs and poems donāt always make the happiest of bedfellows, the one making the other too explicit, narrowing down rather than opening up potential meanings, but here the A4 format gives the images plenty of room and they enrich rather than detract from the experience of reading.
All of which, perhaps, is to overlook other crucial aspects of Grace Stewartās writing: its directness and its humour. As well as the poems which are, as it were, attending to transcendence, there are those which dryly, drolly comment on the foibles of the internet age āin particular, Facebook and Twitter addiction, and, as the title of one piece has it, that āNew Poetic Genre: The Status Updateā. āIf he were living today/would Shakespeare/use Facebook?ā muses Grace Stewart, postulating such poetic āupdatesā as āWill Shakespeare can see a dagger before himā, while āone smart old manā, a sort of virtual Humbert Humbert, transforms himself into the ācharming and wiseā, double-d-cupped āLolitaā, and, in the self-explanatory short, ā140 characters of lessā, the whole Tweetocracy collapses into a satirical slogan the marketing department almost certainly wonāt be plagiarising: āIām bored, Iām bitter, Iām on Twitterā. On the other hand, too, this more direct, more performative style leads towards other, more serious themes, such as post-9/11 anxiety and the detachment of the almost mythical political world from the one which the rest of us inhabit ā āone handā, after all, really canāt āhold the weight/of the world.ā
Ultimately, in fact, you could say that this collection embodies a similar recognition: poetry, too, canāt hold the weight of the world but it can, as it does in these accomplished but unforced pieces, engage, entertain and enliven. (Tom Phillips, Various Artists)
Leap is available here
Leap, my latest collection of poetry and photographs, will be available for sale (print or download) in March 2010. Just like with my last collection, half the proceeds from sales will go to Unicef’s Gift of Education project to help give a child (or, hopefully, several children) the educations they wouldn’t otherwise receive. Donations to this project also help fund a teacher’s salary for a year. Please order an autographed copy now by writing me at writer@hgrace.com to arrange for an inscription and shipping to your home.
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“Sometimes, you just have to take the leap, and build your wings on the way down.” āAuthor Kobi Yamada

This month, I’ve been putting the finishing touches on my next collection, Leap, due out March 2010 and available here, where you can also find my other collection, Where the Butterflies Go. I’ve been incredibly busy with three other writing projects, so what better time to introduce a guest poet to my blog? Our daughter Kayla often speaks in poems–at least I think so. I’ve copied down a few of the sentences she said this week. This will be her first time being published and she’s very excited!
I copied her phrases word-for-word, but titled two of the poems myself (with her approval). “Suppertime Astronomy” came to her while she was eating supper. She got up from the table, peeked out the window, and said exactly this. “Spring Festival” is what she told me her painting above was called, and so when I asked her to write a poem called Spring Festival, she came up with those three lines.
Introducing, for the first time ever, the art and poetry of Kayla Mae Stewart!
Suppertime Astronomy
The man on the moon
is fishing for stars
and playing the piano
On Thunder
I think the Earth is mad at me
because I put the cat
inside the Barbie camper.
Spring Festival
There’s honey inside flowers;
The bees and butterflies spread it.
That’s just how it is.
